Tim and Sharon are great examples of how rewarding life as a foster carer can be. Although there are tough times and new challenges along the way, the positive difference fostering has made to theirs and numerous children’s lives makes it all worthwhile.
Sharon and Tim live in Leicester and have four adult children, one foster child, and a dog. The couple have been fostering for six years, the last four of which have been with Barnardo’s.
Six years ago, Tim and Sharon started out as short term foster carers but decided to move to long-term fostering to offer the young person they were fostering at the time everything they thought he should have in life – a safe, stable and loving place to call home.
Tim, who works as a mental health nurse as well as being a foster carer, enjoys the balance and rewards both roles offer him. “Some children have never held the hand of a parent, and so it is wonderful that we can give a child that experience. It took a long time before our foster child would hold our hands, but it is so rewarding now when he does and feels comfortable with it,” he says.
It was shocking to me what my foster child had never had at home. Small things like never having had a bedtime story. That’s now part of his routine.
His wife Sharon says, “We work with people struggling with mental health issues and have seen first-hand the impact on some of those in the care system who struggled with no sense of belonging. Growing up, they didn’t really have a chance in life. People have said to me ‘I don’t think I’ve ever felt loved’. That was heart-breaking and really influenced our decision to foster.”
When he achieves those little things - my heart is overflowing!
Thinking about their favourite memories as foster carers, Tim and Sharon’s faces light up. Sharon recalls her favourite memory was taking their foster child abroad for the first time. "I remember how excited I felt for him; to be able to give him an experience he had never had before.
Tim’s favourite memory was the first time their foster child called him dad: “It was an amazing feeling that he was accepting me in his life.”
“Compared to having our own children, raising a foster child is different”, Tim says. “That’s when the support and training you get from Barnardo’s can make such a big difference. It really helps you to understand the young person’s behaviours and how different approaches you haven’t used before can be really effective. And it’s so rewarding to help them through the bad times.”
I get something out of fostering every day. Even during the bad times, when afterwards once they have calmed down, they want to be held, they want to be cuddled.
If you’re thinking about fostering, Sharon’s advice is simple: “It’s worth just going to find out more about it and seeing if it is for you. I get something out of fostering every day.”
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